Avoid marriage trouble in retirement


OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERARetirement can bring new problems if spouses have not talked about their ideas and dreams for retirement says Robert Laura, author of an article titled  “Can Your Marriage Survive Retirement,” at Forbes recently. Many retirees, expecting a better quality of life after retirement, have been disappointed and less than half are satisfied. Says Laura, “I’ve found that many people create mental retirement thoughts and plans, but don’t take the time to share them with a spouse, which creates fertile ground for ongoing arguments or resentments that can damage instead of fortifying a relationship.”

Retirement can be especially hard on men. In fact, in Japan, “Retired Husband Syndrome” is becoming more common. It’s where women show up at the doctors with all sorts of physiological symptoms like rashes and headaches that can be traced back to their spouse’s retirement.

Retiring to an RV can be a positive for retirement. Spouses must do some talking, if nothing else to decide on what RV and where to go. It also gives a focus to life, though there are still things to iron out. Ideas on how you spend your time, how fast you travel and how far could differ between spouses. Fortunately there is room for compromise. If one spouse gets to go some place one year, the next year can be the other’s turn.

For those thinking of retiring to an RV, talk, talk, talk! Make sure you are on the same page and have ways to meet each other’s needs. “Marriage is a process that constantly needs to be worked on, not put off until retirement,” says Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo, psychologist and physical therapist and best-selling author. It doesn’t end at retirement either- even in an RV. Jaimie Hall Bruzenak

January 28, 2013
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